Moving Away from Home (While Keeping Your Sanity)

The best lessons I learned while moving 14 times in 15 years.

Levi Borba
11 min readFeb 26, 2022


One of the times that I changed countries. 8 years ago. Photo from the author.

My generation moved from one place to another more than any other in history.

While our parents and grandparents (the Baby Boomers and Generation Xers) stayed in the same area for an average of 4 to 6 years, Millenials move every two years.

For many of us, moving away from home is an exciting time in our lives.

It gives you the chance to start over. However, it can also be one of the most stressful times in your life depending on where you are moving to, who you are moving with and why you are moving in the first place.

I compiled this article with some of the best tips and insights I learned after fifteen years away from my hometown and 14 moves across three continents. Things like:

  • Why is moving away from home so hard?
  • Pros and cons of moving out of your parents’ house
  • Can I afford to move out of my parents’ house?
  • How to handle the anxiety about moving away from home?
  • How to cope with moving away from family and friends?
  • Other recommended reading for anyone planning to move far away and start a new life.
  • The steps I will recommend, from the decision until the ride to the airport.

As with everything in life, context is important, and that is where we begin.

I want to move out of my parents' house!

Many of us will say this phrase at some point between our adolescence and our early thirties. Some people carefully plan this moment, while others do it on the spur of the moment when an opportunity appears on the horizon.

But when we take the time to breathe and analyze carefully whether it makes sense, there are a lot of things at stake.

We frequently overlook or ignore factors that are extremely important later in life.

In this article, I will discuss the benefits and drawbacks of moving out of your parents’ home. This is a decision I made when I was 18 years old, and I have seen many…