Since 2017, I Call My Parents Multiple Times per Week

Please, do not commit the same mistake I did.

Levi Borba


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Have you ever had a scene like that during a collective farewell, be it from high school, university or workplace?

- Let’s promise to ourselves that this will not be our last meeting, guys! We will do it at least one time per year! Deal?

Everyone agrees.

Years come and years go, without the meetings happening again. Sometime later, you lose contact with your old friends, including the ones that supported you to take career decisions or listened to your complaints about life. It’s hard to deal with this disconnection, especially when you don’t know others nearby.

Do people still remember you?

Because at some point, looks like everyone forgot you.

If you are an expatriate, like me, you realized that not everyone understands how different time zones or routines work, especially if they never lived far away. Maybe your friends back home do not contact you because they think you are not available or interested. Don’t take it as an offense.

It is normal that, when living far from home, you need to be proactive about getting in touch with the ones that stayed. Get used to the idea that you also can call your former acquaintances, send greetings and ask how things are going, if the local team is doing fine. When that happens, you will realize they are still there and your old relationships are well-kept.

Modern technology helps a lot to keep in touch, and there are some simple hints to help with your friends.

But what about your parents?

Above I wrote you should be proactive to get in touch with friends. This statement takes an extra dimension when we consider family. They may respect your new routine and try to not bother you requesting calls, but most parents will be jubilant when the phone rings and it is their kids.

Your grandparents? The same, or even more.

Rarely do people that moved far away from their family ask themselves what are their parents’ expectations about contact frequency.